What? Yes, the part of us that says we must be better and get better is the part that really needs the volume control. Did you know that you are fine right now? Did you know that you just need to allow yourself to be called to be you. It is the volume control of the calling that you need to turn up. Now are you really confused? OK, I know it seems like all of those TV clickers on the table and you can not figure out which one you need let alone which button to push. And then you boldly reach for the silver one, you know you were told that was the one that switches this channel to the movies........no that did not work, maybe it is the black one with the tiny tiny symbol that says "net" or the button that says esc....no, it is so confusing eventually you give up and scream "Help! I can not figure out these darn clickers for the life of me!!!!!!!"
Well, I think it is really like that..........at least it is for me. By 61 I have not found the right clicker that will change to the channel that I really really want. Yes on that station I am forever perfection, just like you. I am never aging, never grey, never loosing my hair, I have silky skin, no wrinkles, no muffin top for sure, always cheerful, never disappointed or angry, always lovely, very disciplined, an exercise fiend, say no to all high calorie desserts, loved by everyone and so amazingly intelligent and creative. Yupppp, that is me and I know you too. But the reality of reality creeps in and we all know definitely that is not the real picture. That is the noise where we really need the volume control. Turn it down please. Quiet those expectations to be more perfect. More, more, more we need more.
Callings say you are perfect now in your imperfections, in your aging, your greying hair, you lines that define your face, the softness of your muffin top, the knowing that some like you and others don't (and you feel the same). The volume control for this voice is found in silence when you have turned down the need for a new years resolution to become better than you are right now. Stop it, stop it, stop shaping and molding and projecting and wishing and conniving to be someone you are not, someone who is better. But if I stop, I will slide down the slippery slope, I will loose all discipline and care for my beauty, I will become an even worse failure than I already am. Are you sure? Is that what you would say to your child? I suspect what you really would say to your child is something like this, "Oh, my darling, just be you, find what calls you to fulfill your potential. You have a place in this world, I can see it in your eyes. When you let yourself be and know you are wonderful like I do then you will know your calling and you will have what it takes, I know you will."
And so my darlings, just be you. Imagine a world where everyone is perfect just like you so want to be. Every woman is slim, athletic, no grey, no wrinkles, no perfections, all men are heros, there are no wants, no needs, all is star light and rainbows. Really? Yuck, yuck, yuck, please for me, keep your imperfections, keep your challenges that give you character and make you interesting and listen to your calling. Turn up that volume control. It can take a little time to refine that sound through listening. In the distance is the ca ca ca calling......you are perfect now, you are you, the most wonderful you......what you need to find out more of is not how to be more perfect but what is it that you have to share, to give to the world. What is it? Ca ca ca ca ca ca calling you is your purpose. And my guess is that when that sound resonates you will find you are happier, less wanting to be more to make those new years resolutions.
Just be you darn it, Just be you. No hesitation, no insecurity, Just be you. All year, everyday and when you do, just be you with all of the stuff you still have not yet figured out or perfected, I suspect you will connect more, find more friends, relax, laugh more, enjoy more and will naturally be healthier. Your behavior will support you to be you not the person you think you are. You know the one who is not good enough, the one that needs new years resolutions. Just do that, be you the wonderful creation of you....the one that is not good enough will become good enough and you will be the winner! Ca Ca Ca callings............